Today someone told me that women don't care if a man past thirty has a little belly, or kind of a flabby chest. First i started to feel depreciated and that having a natural flat belly wasn't an advantage at that age. But then i questioned why women wouldn't care about that in a partner?, let's say probably because a man with a beer belly at age thirty is the norm and women are used to meet such men around that age. So i realized i'm a rare case, and i pumped my self confidence back, because i'm not the norm, because i'm rare that makes me even more special and a wonder to get, i'm a middle aged man with the body of a dynamic twenty something man.
Do women really give no credit for good health in middle aged men? Is it all looks, money, and attitude?
I think women are attracted to confident men, men of all shapes and sizes, their personality and confident demeanor is what draws attention (long lasting attention that is not based on lust).
RépondreSupprimerThat's an interesting topic, a lot to say, and just this week I saw a video clip about a guy putting on a "fat suit" and stopping random young women on the street to flirt and ask for their phone number. Interestingly, the women were engaging and many exchanged their phone numbers with him and liked him because he was confident and friendly. I also saw the same social experiment done the opposite, a woman made to look visibly fat and fewer men were interested. I think men are leas judged on their appearance than women, especially in terms of body fat.
In conclusion, it's the confidence that both genders are drawn to and that self love and acceptance that shapes lasting relationships between couples.
yeah,very sensible!! Though i still think my observation is correct women accept more easily that a middle aged man has a little belly, it's seen as normal (and in the brain a bulky man is still stronger than a slim man, so it's conforting in the mind, and most women search to be protected, what an awful mistake, it keeps them in a state of slave in those societies, not being aware of their own strength and that they can do anything by themselves), then they only notice and are keen to be attracted if a man is visibly strong and muscular (so physically middle aged men naturally slim like me are commonly overlooked).
SupprimerI'm not sure that the reversed is true, men can be very critical about women appearance maybe because the norm is shown in media and magazines to be the slimest is the best, dangerously i heard this negative tendency is going to be put on men too as there are more and more magazines and tools sold to men to gardened their appearance, i think that's foul and disgusting for both genders, the norms spread to sell stuff among the population are an attack on anyone's freedom of being.
Moreover i think what most women search is not plainly a confident guy but someone more like a faithful guide, that will decide and choose for them, that will solve all the difficult situations and and help them in the difficult decisions, most women are helpless in that sense. I think that way of being is not correct and modern societies put women in that role.
SupprimerI judge myself a quite confident man now, i now myself and what i want very well, i know life and human beings, i know the tricks and strings of a lot of systems, i'm not a fool, but because i'm very independent that way, that i give space for others to be and do what they want and feel around me, in the mind of many women i'm not a good fit, because it's like i don't care for them if i don't tell them what to do, if i don't grab them, put them on my back, and bring them back to my cave to secure their lives; honnestly are we still in the prehistoric age?? because to me that's how the mental of many men and women are in our current society, really!! I'm thinking i'm too ahead of my time right now, and to find a partner someone has to be egoistical and blindly desireful. I'm on the path of respect and responsibility, and i have faith humanity will take that way too, it's the most sensible in my opinion, but for now that's where we are and women don't mind so much to be carried around, to be liabilities, and they have the choice, but they choose the men that are in that old way of thinking and acting, the brutes, the desperates, the demanding lover.
But humanity is slowly waking up, fortunately, for the good of everyone!!!
Taking responsibility for what you are, what you do and say, is very important for me in the positive evolution of human beings. (just my opinion, damn i keep adding notes, it's true it's an interesting subject)
SupprimerVery good, thought provoking writing! I agree with your analysis, the current courtship system is outdated and there are a lot of women (and men) living in codependent relationships. Women choose the physically strong, larger men, because that is the physiche we are conditioned to associated with strength and reliability. Majority of women who want committed relationships search for a man they can depend on, the traditional typo who is financially stable and able to provide for a family. But I see signs that society is slowing changing, there are more and more unconventional dynamics between couples. For example u know a few couples who reversed the relation so that it is the woman who provides financially while the man retires early and stays home. As women begin to take higher roles in the workforce the traditional rules of a couple are adapting to that shift in status and power.
RépondreSupprimerEh, I apologize for the spelling mistakes in the text above. Yes it is an interesting topic!
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