Pieces of advice for those who can never start a project, those who think there's always too much to do.

I was idle this afternoon and i thought i could clean up a bit.
Watching my appatment in its entirety, with that layer of dust in every room, the many stains on the mirors, the windows, and the tiles, plus all the other kinds of dirt, i was already losing my motivation, seeing all the little details of a bigger picture put together, at once i imagined the amount of work there was, and that was frightening.
And i know my brain functions like that toward everything in life, when i have a project, even something i really want to achieve, i tend to think about everything, every obstacles i would have to overcome, every steps, all put together, and in the end it's too much and i give up.
So here this afternoon in front of my vacuum cleaner i had an illumination, some idea that i had to try because i never thought about a project that way before, i thought : "what do i want?", clean the dust in my appartment, so ok that's a goal, let's forget about the whole picture and start with what is for me the first step, with only one room in mind, the smallest, my bathroom (and if this is too much i would know it for the next time and i would adapt and pick something even smaller, learning by experience, but that's not the time to think about the next cleaning moment isn't it, let's focus on this one).
So instantaneously standing up in the frame of my bathroom and watching the floor, the task didn't seem so enormous and impossible anymore.
So i did that, i cleaned the whole bathroom floor, i focused only on that small room, it was easy.
Then once i was satisfied, i thought : "Ok so what's the next step toward my main goal?", one question at a time, let's pick another room, and i focused all my attention only on that next room, and so on, that was so easy, and i didn't clogged my mind with too many questions and imaginary obstacles, projections and stuff, i focused on one step at a time.
And i believe this is the way to go, to achieve anything, and it can be adaptable for anyone, we can reduce the amount of work for each step, for example i could have decided that i focus and clean only one tile at a time, and only think about the next tile when i'm satisfied of my work with the previous one, this goes to every project, one step at a time, even if you want to become a Rocket engineer (there will be many more steps than cleaning an appartment but by focusing on one at a time it becomes less impressive).
There's another little thing i want to add, we must have only one question in mind, one focus, one task, to do it well, but let's imagine i was cleaning up and my vacuum cleaner gets stuck behind some furniture while i'm trying to reach a spot to clean in a corner, it would be incorrect and destructive to force and haul on the wire trying absolutely to finish the cleaning, in such a situation i have to recognize that some new factor occured hindering me to achieve success in my current step, so i have to refocus my priority task, take the time to stop and solve that one problem that happened, so here i would have turned off my vacuum cleaner and calmly took the time to unstuck it before continuing to finish the step i was on.

Ok i don't know if i'm very clear, but i felt this is a very important realization for me, and i guess not too many people are conscious of this process, probably some minds are already functioning that way naturally but i had to make myself conscious of it to make me go forward.

Have a good day.

Where is happiness?

Here's a simple statement : What do people living in luxury, or any people buying stuff, really want? Isn't it : a positive feedback from others?! Isn't it what makes us happy in the end?! And that is the meaning of life?! We buy expensive cars and clothes because we want to be admired, and loved, and respected by others through an image we project, and whatever if this image is completely fake.
(If there was only one human being left on the planet, will that be a priority to buy an expensive car?! I don't think so! All those things we buy are mainly to impress others, we don't really need it.)
So this way, totally set into the ego, is hardwork and lies, it requires means and money, and a playbook of fake identities. It's the way of our modern societies, we live into that mud from birth, and like fish unconscious of the water they live in, we don't see a way out.

So, how to change a circle into a spiral?

If happiness equals the positive feedbacks and connections we get from others, what about this way to get it : simply respect the others, and respect youreself.
It is sane and honest.
Wouldn't that work?!
I'm pretty sure it works, and it's free, it's a choice here and now to live well with oneself amongt the others, accepting differences, getting interested in other people's visions of life, knowing and keeping oneself in high respect too.
Wouldn't that be a huge change for humanity if everyone could be aware of that simple fact. You can get the happiness you need in your life as a human being simply by respecting yourself and respecting others (one must fully understand the meaning of respect, that is not having negative, destructive emotions toward anything or anyone).

So i share here that knowledge, that is essential to me, then it's to each one of us to make that choice, that shift, for the best, do whatever you want.