On the "soul mate" matter

If we consider the concept of "soul mate" as someone that satisfies us on many levels, someone we feel we want to share everything with, and come back to endlessly, then it can be analyzed, and it's not random, to me it's not unexplainable, or magical, or whatever, but first it's important to notice that most of actual human relationships are corrupted by the egoic self, the judgments, the concepts, with which the mind put the world and people in boxes, so firstly to have a pure relationship and so be able to find a "soul mate" we have to be able to love, without judgments, without our mind, that is accepting what is, the nature, the people, the situations, around us, accepting it without being hurt by it, that's knowing how to truly love, and that's the first point, but then there are other factors that have to be taken in consideration, because you can be open to love, encountering someone without labelling him/her, and still recognize that this person won't be able to transcend your emotions, to vibrate on the same level as you are, and that's fine, there's a lot of different vibrations in people down there, and all have a right to be, but to find someone that fits yours you have to consider some other things like : values, tastes, hobbies, opinions, preferences, so some things to share on the form level, some things that put the both of you on the same path, the same mind direction, but at the basis without judgements, and without expectations; i'm probably not exhaustive on that analysis but that's a part of what i think.

oh and yeah, it's useless to search for perfection, the perfect match on every level, every detail, that we think makes who we are, after the few pre-mentioned steps loving then becomes mostly a choice, a belief.