The common misjudgement about Love

I'm thinking true love should be disinterested, without any expectations, being oriented to one person on a moment without restraint, so someone who doesn't like himself is unable to love genuinely, such a person will search endlessly himself in the other, a vain quest because what he is isn't in the other but in himself, and so not really seeing and respecting the other in that dreadful confusion. To really love we have to feel all powerful in what we are, in our choices, our actions, our opinions, those who seek love outside themselves are just wanting reassurances over their frail self esteem, someone who doesn't love himself is unable to love truly. I think true love comes from a strong sense of self.

(That opinion could be marginal, because it comes from me, me which nudity doesn't shock, but doesn't excite either, how can i be so casual, how can i be so insensitive, so boring. What i state serves my need, i could be an hypocrite, because that unbridled temper is what i need to feel loved.
There's the love we can give and the love we receive, and both are important in a human life, even if it's somewhat plausible and provenly bearable to spend it in complete denial. If it's vital to receive love it's then very difficult to give without expectations unless our sense of self is so strong that we know how to find what we need elsewhere if the one we decided to give love doesn't want to give it back, in that case could it be better to break the relation and so betray that first principle i want to follow : "true love should be disinterested". Interesting questioning, lots of dilemmas in the give and receive of oriented emotions.)

If you're expecting something from the other, even expecting to find yourself, how can you give sincerely?! It's not possible, so according to my own theories it's just disrespectful.