"My point in this post is noticing that i function like a woman on the
matter of connecting with the other gender, i focus on an emotional and
intellectual bond first, like most women do naturally, in opposite to
men who choose first on appearance and sex appeal, but i despise
choosing like men do generally because it can so easily lead to using
the other, at first they are all loving enjoying fully touch and
intimacy with a girl they think is attractive, but as soon the relation
must go farther and they quickly discover that beneath the pretty shell
the personality, the values, the mind doesn't match, men just turn away
and sabotage the relation, leaving the woman feeling used, tricked and
that they were only here for the sex, which in the end was true, so if
you want a better lasting relation you must consider mind connection
first which i do, (which is the women's way to do, generally), the
problem is that women want to feel desired instantly (because it's the
old system and everyone is used to this one), so in fact women who are
generally attractive are those who are the most used and let down, so
also women are mostly attracted to those who make them feel more
feminine so those who desire them in a sexual primal way, so they tend
to get attached with men that will leave them after they get the shallow
part of a relationship which is physical intimacy, and then people
complain that men are jerks but in fact most women are attracted to
feeling desired so they are attracted to the jerk's way to connect, all
this is a natural functioning but when you are aware you know where to
go and you can relativize your flings, and choose willingly if you want a
one shot or a more profound relation.
If you want a better relation
you know you have to resist to be attracted to someone that desire you
to quickly and learn to know the mindset of the person.
As currently
i function like a woman and can't show an instant attraction, a desire
to possess first, because i don't think appearance is much important, so
i'm not attractive to women, in fact if i was a jerk and wanting to
bang a woman as soon as i speak to her, she would probably more consider
me as a potential partner, isn't it sad, it's all for reproduction,
nature set us all.
So i warn you all now you know how general
attraction between men and women works and so you can choose willingly
what you want to experience, you can't complain anymore. eh eh
Personally
i just want deeper lasting relations that's it, but i know we all don't
match greatly with a lot of person, it's a tough quest, so sometimes
settling for the easy comfort of an instant affection seem more enticing
but it never lasts and in the end only leaves a bitter taste of self
betrayal and self disrespect, that should tend to set more precise
choices, it's learning by experience but it can be painful, i choose the
way of the reasoning and thinking because i fear rejection yeah, but
also because i personally think it's saner, i don't use and i don't want
to feel used, and i'm conscious how all this works, i'm not shy or
desperate, i'm intellectually strong and i want to connect."
Peace!
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