Everyone should be aware of his functioning in his environment, which is in fact his life philosophy, because being aware of his words, his actions, help to judge the harm they can cause; some may choose to knowingly hurt what's around them, considering their own interest and in my opinion those will be to blame;
But I think if we were aware of the pain that we can do, many of us will choose not to do wrong. This is not the case now because people don't ponder what they do or say, they don't reflect on where they're going and the consequences of their lifestyle.
The Medias and the entire system of values in our modern sociéties corrupt our mind. In my opinion awareness must be taught the sooner in life, the parents must transmit better values to their children, to form a new generation of respectful individuals, but, who's gonna teach the parents these respectful values?! the Medias could do that, but they only have the profit in their line of sight. .... i'm sick.....
When I stand in line at a cash register I watch as a small child grabs a candy bar and gets ready to put on a show that will guarantee to get him what he wants. The parent says "No, put that back!" and the child makes a grumpy face and pretends to whine. Then the whine turns into a temper tantrum, where the child proceeds to scream and yell as if he's being physically tortured. Sometimes, these children even drop to the floor and start twirling in circles and wailing in hysterics.
RépondreSupprimerThe parent has no choice but to pay for the damn candy bar, which the kid didn't even want anyway as it was all a game a child likes to play to test the power of the adults.
Now these adults, in my opinion, could have avoided the whole situation if they had taught the child that when the parent says "no" there's a good reason for it. If the parents had responded in kindness previous times, like "no, I can't buy that for you now" or "no, you can have that after dinner" the child would feel treated with more respect.
But if parents treat their kids like animals that they scare into doing what needs to be done, there's no surprise that the kids would be equally rude as they grow up. As the joke goes: when a parent complains about the poor behavior of the child, the child might say "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree."
Perhaps if parents didn't give commands but instead spoken to children like humans from the very beginning of life they would have prevented the future power battles. When a brat falls to the floor, the parents should teach him or her why that is disrespectful. But since people are so concerned about their image in front of others, they choose to pacify the kid who scares them by acting out the exorcist in public.
Children get power over parents, and if parents continue excusing it and doing whatever it takes to silence the wailing then they are raising more rude and disrespectful materialstic snobs to fill the offices of our corporate society.
When I was growing up I knew to respect my parents, I knew right from wrong. Yet, I watched as other children didn't understand that. If you wanted to instill good morals to a misbehaving child, you could physically force him to stop rolling on the floor like an animal. But now, they call that "child abuse" and thus kids are entitled to act as crazy as they want to get what they want.
"Total self-indulgent," selfish, and arrogant children grow up to be self indulgent, selfish, and arrogant adults. They then pass on these characteristics to their future herd.
I think I'm sick of it too, as you can probably tell...
What to say...you apparently totally understand my point, i agree with you! Parents should take the time to teach their children the "why" and the "how"; not forcing their offspring to integrate lame social functioning without explanation, parents are mainly lazy, scared and also unaware of humanistic values, they act with these flaws and finally transmit them to their children, and the cycle goes on... sad
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