respect + acceptance = true love

complete, within, free,

that's how i envision it

to oneself first then to others

Some lines from Kurt Cobain (coming from my recent watching)

"Most of the lyrics are just like contradictions and..., i write a few sincere lines and then i have to make fun of it with another line..., i don't like to make things too obvious because if it is too obvious it gets really stale, shouldn't be in people's faces one hundred percent of the time..., we don't mean to be really cryptic, you know, or mysterious, i just think that lyrics that are different and kind of weird and spacy paint a nice picture, you know, this is the way i like art."

"I would like to think there's some purity in this, yeah, naive, purposely naive."


and that part where he says, no matter if you don't know how to play as long as you do it with passion.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNMuFotUTbI

common mistake from a lack of self love

You push people to love you, desperately, anyone getting close desires you, you make it that way, because you can't love yourself enough so you need their love to give you substance, you give your body, you submit your mind, you do unfathomable compromises, but then you are disapointed, sad, and you reject them, because you realize very few can match you, very few really accept and wish to understand you, that you're not real with them, wearing a mask, putting a false attitude is so tiresome. This is what happens to those who seek acceptance in the others, the correct answer is to find peace in oneself, and all is there, love, acceptance and respect.

Space

Writing has no sense when we can speak

What's the purpose to dream when we can live

I can't come up with something better because there's no form anymore, this is perfect and there's a place to be for all next to me, the wicked and the vile, and you all in your fright.
The beautiful and simple you.
But you have to understand it to be able to share it with me.
Come.

Fragility

No one knows what i'm capable of for that passion that is me, instilled in everything that makes my path, everything that comes out of me, the words rolling on my tongue, melting like honey in my mouth, the electricity moving my arms, letting my fingertips glide sensually, and when i tilt my head to watch at my love on a new improbable angle, that passion, once blood dripping on a sheet of paper, transports me on hills and sing like a fool in ecstasy, it's trembling and begs to be freed, if no one knows it's because no shell can attain so much love without dying, not even mine, not even my gritty little heart, in search for the indestructible balance of a resonating love.

For better understanding between men and women

(I may be wrong here, don't lynch me, but i feel to write that, if you have things to add to the subject please say your opinion respectfully)

Here's up to me part of a secret about men.
To act sexually with a woman, a man has to see her as an object of desire, "object" is the key word, so he has to shift his focus onto the animal part in him, it's like changing tracks on a cd, he has to lay down the thinking part : the brain, and the emotional part : the heart, because if a man keeps too much sensitivity into intimacy he will make love with caresses (finally more like a woman will do), a lot of attention and kind words (the intensity depending on the personality of the man obviously), but no penetration, for the blunt and vulgar sexual act he has to switch and take the woman as an object to possess entirely, it can be traumatizing for a man, schizophrenic (it has something to do with the feminine and masculine parts that we all have inside us), and after the act it requires to switch again to the passionate mind or the "heart", something more gentle to stay beside his partner and continue to comfort her, and it can take a moment for a man to switch back, i guess that's why some men need to take few steps away after the act to recompose themselves or they need to stay silent, so please be lenient, but i want to add that if a man takes too much time, or sighs to come back, maybe that means he just considers the woman he slept with as a piece of meat and all he wanted was carnal pleasure and no other sharing, not from the heart.
I guess in women, emotions and sensations are closely tied up, they function mostly with the heart, while men has to shift often during intimacy, between the animal part and the sensitive part in them because they need focus and can focus only on one thing at a time (unlike women who are more "multi-task" persons), and that's not so easy, hence the incomprehension that can rise between man and woman regarding affection.

It's nice to make love with carresses, but it is said that when a man discovers the other way to do it, the animal way, then he can't go back and will mainly be stuck onto direct sexual relations, can't we switch willingly then?! hmm.

Elementary : one goal is to feel fine with others

Not everything is love.
Not everything is related to sex and intimacy, absolutely not, only one thing is certain it's that we feel the greatest joy when we share something with people we feel perfectly safe with, whatever is the thing you share, even the worst : a bad movie, a walk for mushrooms in the forest even though you dislike eating mushrooms, a nasty junk food meal, crossing smelly devastated areas, speaking about suicide and children rape, these can seem like painful moments but if you share it with someone you feel fine with then you'll keep a peaceful feeling out of it, whatever the person is : man, woman, older or younger, handicaped, ill or healthy, sharing the complicity and freedom of communication is what makes you feel satisfied and at peace in your life, and obviously you don't need to be intimate physically with everyone you feel fine with because here enters the question of sexual orientation, body traits likings and personal attraction for features of plain appearance.
I can feel so satisfied and peaceful at the end of a day spent with one or several male friends, without feeling the need to touch or tease cause i'm not homosexual and attracted to them physically, or a female friend with which we philosophize all day, and it's so rewarding, but i know i have no attraction for her body. People like me are intimate, they function the best in a small groups, even more in face to face exchange, but intimate means intimate to oneself, being close to one's true self in front of the other, without mixing, just feeling that freedom to be with the other.