The other day i was watching a popular series for teenagers and a kid in the show (supposed to be four or five years old) asks to his supposed bimbo grand-ma after some observations : "Adults are really kissing all the time?"
and to get rid of the question she replies : "Only when they are in love!"
To me that's a common misconception a lot of people have by associating love and physical intimacy (any physical intimacy).
Tv and most of creations made to make us feel, and spend our money, teach it that simplistic way, but my beliefs are otherwise.
True love is the perfect acceptance and respect of the Being of the others ( i think most people don't know what is the Being, the true self, so they feel and live through their ego, the entity in us that is insecure, that desires and creates fears and separation, they only know the demented and always painful egoic love, but that's not the point here), true love goes without judgments, without expectations, and without desires (because it's already wanting to change the other, and get something out of him/her, it can be physical, or material, and even spiritual [as in getting a knowledge]).
To me that's a confusion on the word "love", what is spoken about in the show is plain old and primal lust, leading to sex and physical intimacy, naturally implanted in us to reproduce and allowing our race, the humans, to continue existing over time. It's not noble, it's not romantic, or pretty, it is forced on us, and lust doesn't acknowledge and respect the other, it's a simple primal drive.
So sex is ok between consenting persons (it's a passtime two, or more, persons can share, like playing tennis) but it has nothing to do with the true and lasting love we all crave for.
So shows like these implant a wrong concept in youth minds, who become dependant.
You know I understand and feel the same way. Last night I was restless and turned on the TV, and watched a movie No Strings Attached which is on the same subject: Lust does not equal love, but lust with someone you love is more satisfying.
RépondreSupprimerI think the mainstream media show what you said, simply that physical intimacy is supposed to equal true love (which is a lie). But still, I have some faith in humanity because they do try, even if only slightly, to convey the message that physical chemistry alone is not enough to bond a lasting relation.