That girl, she was sitting on a square chair at a long bulky table, several persons were gathered for a huge meal, coming from behind, that guy, they are the sweet couple, he puts a kiss on the back of her head, surprised she tilts backwards brusquely, hiting him in the jaw, he errupts, waving his arm in front of him like a shield, his body twisted in a momentum to flee away, throwing insults, the whole package of mental rejection and anihilation of the other, in an attempt to settle down the situation she puts a forced smile on her face and shed out quantity of apologizes, her hands regroup on her lap, she huddles up in that familiar frightened form, she must have been used to those raves, the guy went in the kitchen to rince his chin, accusing her, cursing her of her awkwardness, angry words running along the corridors, slowly she loses her smile, then guilt, fear, and self blaming defeat her pretty face, she retracts even more in her shell, her moral drops and crashs on the floor, he comes back, always criticizing bluntly, he makes a circle around her, dismissing with a slap her conforting gestures.Such a fuss for a clumsiness, such disdain, such emphasis to break down a person and mend one hurt ego, how long is it going to last again?
(Those two are a couple for two years and plan to get married)
Is she the same person you described in the previous writing?
RépondreSupprimerIf so, this information is a valid explanation for her affection toward you. The guy she is with doesn't appreciate her, takes her for granted. Sounds like he is controlling, breaking her confidence, and she buries herself in her shame. Such disrespect.
So despite differences in your theories, she finds you pleasing because you have a shred of tenderness that he can't give her.
Imagine: Your opinions are not matching but you were able to have a fun debate, a respectful debate where each person feels heard and understood. It doesn't matter if you reach an agreement, the most important is the ability to have communications about something controversial even if two do not agree.
RépondreSupprimerIf her guy freaks out about an accidental or playful punch in the jaw, imagine how much conflict and despair the two of those would experience if they discussed two opposing view points.
It seems simple to me, to everything we can find an explanation.
She's not the same girl than the previous post, So the first part of your comment stays as mere speculation on what could be, probably i'll be less of a tyran than her actual partner, more communicative and respectful, but i'm not a "couple breaker", i stay afar and observe.
RépondreSupprimerFor the second part i totally agree with you, i follow you one hundred percent, this is reality of a satisfying communication and this is a behavior i stick along, about communicating in respect and acceptance, even if on different opinions.
And yeah i guess in that couple the girl is more often crushed during arguments and unmatching opinions than the opposite.