If we only speak half of our thoughts we will only be understood half of ourselves, we have to explain who we are and what we want from others.
I felt bored seeing a friend for a long time now, we were always doing the same activities, nothing new around us to talk about and blow the embers of a satisfying conversation, and i realized i could change that, i could get what i wanted and still see that friend, i don't have to lie to him, pretend i'm busy when he calls asking to see me, it was so easy how could i never thought about it before, i was stuck in the thinking patern of pretending to be nice with him, so now i'm aware that i can change things around, i can change my world, i'm not stuck in a hamster wheel, i make the choice to speak real and to show what i am, no matter what people can think, i asked him i wanted to do something new with him, that i needed more sharing and to experience new things, and i don't need drastic changes, we simply decided on a new restaurant to try out, and that was a real pleasant time, i don't have to settle on looping situations if it doesn't fit me, i can change and choose what is fine with my real self.
I think everyone evolves, being aware and staying true to yourself is a healthy way to live. I think if everyone was aware of that we would be a more accepting society. But, I won't worry about everyone else. What is important is being true to yourself and doing what feels good and right according to yourself, with respect to others and environment around you.
RépondreSupprimerWhat you said also reminded me that it is important to keep in mind that people are not predictable. The same way we ourselves evolve, others do too, and I think we shouldn't be afraid to show ourselves and propose different ways of spending time with others. Even if you have a friend who you suspect would not be interested in something you like, you should still ask if you want and maybe his or her interests have changed.
I'm aware that interests also have a lot to do with our temperament, and we pick what we like based on that; however, still, I am speculating that no human being is predictable and therefore one may like what could appear as something outside his/her predictable interest.