Confidence is too often confused with competence.

Humans are easily tricked by facial expressions.

Look surpasses depth, and it's a shame.

Try to be consciously attentive.


I was always doubtful, and stingy to give my trust to people and informations, too much and you fall in a state of paranoia, yet i think it's important to develop one's critical faculty at an early age.
Then when you grow self confident, you are able to relativize and search your informations by yourself without losing your individuality in any group, or exposed to any random information.

Self confidence and critical faculty make a good balance.

I don't hope

This is a time i'm seeing a lot of new stuff, drinking too much cherry beers on that brown couch, abstract paintings are hung to the walls, some made with a myriad of quick and short paintbrush strokes, white, blue, grey, black, in all directions, watching it i feel i'm under a pouring rain, depressed and wet to the bones.
It's a nice appartment, the owner is kind of a twist between an artist and an athlete, abstract painting and 800 meters races define her hobbies, a step machine is lost in a corner, she hardly ever used it she confessed,
i'm eating more aperitif cocktail biscuits, opening my second packet, souffléed goatcheese is tasty,
all the rooms are so neat and clean, and with my feasting i'm starting to mess up the short but wide dark wooden table in front of me, i haven't noticed but the couch and that table are matching, oh!, as well as the set of drawers on the back, two tiny colored lamps are hidden on each sides of the tv, it gives a cozy atmosphere to that dining room, we feel like in the womb of our mothers, a faded pink and orange are reflected on the immaculate white walls,
i changed my threadbare t-shirt for a brand new skin tight shirt, what for?!,
we isolate on the balcony, first floor, to smoke, no not me, but that skiny one, i isolate to inhale deeply the freshness of the night, watch the neighborhood teenage girls in tight jeans passing in the street ahead, side by side, giggling, probably en route to some party, i'm not partying but i sure am kind of drunk, and stuffed too!!,
oh it's not much, i wish it really had an effect, but i'm also controlling this so well that i manage to keep a sweet composure and a sharp clarity of the mind, there was a time it made be bond with strangers, we felt pals for the time the high lasted, what a bore, they were mainly all so unfitting to me, or maybe i was the one unfitting in that scheme, and that's what i'm saying, what i'm telling, like a fable, to the person who joined me, elbows leaned on the metallic guarding fence, share our lifes like two newly meeting people do : philosophy, philosophy, theory, theory, story, stories, yeah i can do it, i'm so uselessly proud, annoying,
i'm "interesting", after sobs and dramas, that's what comes out of that throb,
i don't want to ask myself questions about defining what's new, new people, new places, new personalities, new opinions, new judgements, except now i'm able to fly above all that
(for real this time, while before, long ago, i was just making this up, the tormented poet, the decadent dandy, and trying only to convince myself that i was fine to be),
i'm so detached it's scary, "i'm devoided of sentiments", that's what i say when i want to make Mika cringe, and he is himself so sensitive that he feels right away the urge to argue,
"Stop controling, let it flow, feel it and let it drive you.",
damn my friend but don't you know i'm heartless, don't send me messages cause i reply and send some only when i feel i want, i don't feel guilty over the help you bring me, the money you lend and your intense concern about me,
you all, you hear me,
and those two short messages i got today, it puts me in a dire, i can't reply, oh i have a good reason, but stop igniting stress in me, i told you i can't, so please help me, help me, you all, you world, give me the power to feel and the will to help myself, go, go, go, i must go, i must give everything, i must believe in irrationality, and come back if it's not the way, but maybe i'm already too far in that strict path, no coming back, no turning back my head even a slightest, and i'm alone in the shadow of the valley of death.

--------(to get the truth in those lines, just discard all the negativity, product of a distorted mind, and yeah, i'm so unoriginal)---------

(Here's a little story as i always feel to tell when i'm thinking about reaching away, i could make it plain, it's filled with truth of what happened to me those past days, but a plain description would be boring isn't it, well i won't see any sense to write if i won't make it personally interesting and stylish, oh i could write, yeah i could but it will go nowhere, for a proof my initial thought was, "this is a time i would be glad to meet you, [to talk about what we're becoming, and much more], pointless like i said, but where all that goes, that verve, that enlivened imagery, it goes there, through a wire, and maybe on the other side it just pops and vanishes, creating nothing, stimulating nothing, with zero effect, a mind needs to process it and give it life, suppositions and superstitions, the heart must beat faster and louder, the brain must get hotter, as the cheeks blush, and baby tears clean the vision, the hair on the arms must lift, electrified, the hands must need to grip and scratch and touch the skin anxiously, mess or rearrange the hair, trembling, the lips get stiff, the upper pressed on the downer, or the teeth stick sorely onto the pulp, anything!, anything but something, a reaction, a thought, a craving, a worthy emotion, something that stays somewhere in us and changes us for a little unoticeable part, that's the purpose of sharing, of telling to people who can count in some ways, if there's no spark, then there's no connection, it falls flat, and it dies.)

From war to laws to conscious self help

It is because there are laws and collective rules that we can now develop individual consciousness.

(At the time of barbarians and uncultivated minds, someone kind and thoughtful must have been quickly exploited and knocked off right after.)

It is time now to transcend those rules which are getting old in order to evolve humanity to the next chapter.

Starlings Story

Do you want to hear about starlings, because a bunch of them is pillaging the plum tree in front of my room, i observed them this morning, ten or more on the ground with their camouflage feathers, sticking their beaks in the round yellow fruits and hoping away swiftly as to escape others to snatch their meal or to fight over it, (i can humanize them prudently leering at each others), then suddenly i sneezed, tricked by the malicious wind seeping through the ajar window and my short sleeves, tickling my nose, the pack of birds all flew away in a same movement, droping their affairs, panicked, not to go far though as i watched they perched on the top branches, (blooming with pretty little green leaves), from the very tree they were feasting under.

Get together for the good reason (not so easy to understand and achieve)

What i think is the current truth for a long time, i found written in that book, that is people get together not because they truly love another but to soothe their inner pain, to get support because they aren't strong enough, thus they form couples by default, expectation and neediness to their insecurities, instead of real asserted love, they get together not because the other is what he is and they love it, but because the other has something that allows them to feel stronger and supported through life, which is to me such a mean, often unconscious, decision (because most people don't know themselves and so don't know from where come their insecurities and how to overcome it by themselves, an obvious weakened mind.)

"Those who form an 'official couple' before feeling autonomous (that is being able to function by themselves) take the risk to depend too much on the other and to expect too much out of him. They don't take the time to rejoice in their independence and to discover how to satisfy themselves without a partner. Instead of spending some years to free themselves from the parental grip and learn to count only on themselves, they right away go from the parental house to the refuge of the couple, without ceasing to depend on others for love and support. Rushing like this in an intimate relation will deprive them of a unique opportunity to dig out their self confidence, the assurance and autonomy required for a couple to thrive.

Living separated from parents is an important step to turn us into adults. Living for a while separated from the opposite gender is also enlightening. A person able to find her stability on her own - or by sharing an appartment with friends of the same gender - build a strong basis for a future duet.

When our job and our friends don't satisfy us, we turn to partners likely to fill up our existence, instead of those with who we could share this one (share what we really are). Instead of mixing two full cups to be overwhelmed by bliss, we reunite with the other in the first place to fill in lacks (defaults, deficiencies).
Huge mistake : it requires to live happily alone to find the right person and form a couple."

(it's kind of my own interpretation because it's a raw translation and i changed some words but this whole text is an idea i agree with, to me true love is in self sufficience and then the choice of a partner.)

Fashion Art

Hardly for anything, beneath the superficial, a light, a color, a reflect, a chin down, a set harmony

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Forget about comparisons, path of enlightement

I figured there's no need for slumps and downs, on that path of evolution, with the correct state of mind everything can go smoothly, there's no conflicts in any new relations or ends of relation, all is said calmly, and acknowledged, all opinions and persons are respected, and there's no pain in the heart nor in the mental, the memories aren't bitter but only sweet honey, because the choices are made in complete respect of oneself first and the others then, we can talk openly and without restraints, the word "secret" doesn't exist in the trust of the self and the respect of the other, if all is said there's no misunderstandings, if the questions are asked kindly, if the feelings are disclosed as only belonging to one, the path of enlightement and personal happiness doesn't need clashes, violence and resentment, it simply doesn't create that sort of things because of the compassionate character the person on that very path displays, i'm seeing around me fearful humans, i'm meeting them, they are hiding in their shell when i watch them straight in the eyes, others watch me back for one entire minute without putting their chins down one bit, nor closing their eyelids, self trust and assurance can impress, but with a kind aura, it soothes, it gives substance and presence to the other, it makes him feel recognized as your equal, and every word, every opinion counts, the bad emotions are only polluting those who feel it, corrupting their thoughts, collapsing their bodies, if you choose to trust yourself on that path, nothing can take you down, nothing can touch you negatively, finally positiveness is communicative, the shy ones get sparkles on their face when you question them on their passion, the confident ones smile and debate with you, creating that joyful mood we all seek so painstakingly, when it becomes clear it's very easy just to be yourself in any new situation with any new people around, we don't need rulers, it's also useless wanting to have an impact on others, just being sincere and accepting draw others to you, and that's the path, that's it, trust yourself, read and trust others, you'll see the powerful bond forming by itself, that's what everyone wants, unconsciously inside, and now i'm sure, it works by waving off judgment and negativity, and presenting the confident and raw You.