I came to visit that friend. The house is huge. Silent and empty for now. We occupy our time together, talking, playing, watching. Suddenly a clank and the whirring of an engine is coming from the underground garage. Steps in the stairs, then shuffling in the living room. A short moment passes, i don't shift my attention and continue doing what i  was doing. At that point my friend goes (and it's always the same scenario) : "My parents are here!" watching me intently in the eyes, waiting. I get the message and i'm saying now, that annoys me greatly. I want to say : "And so what? I don't care about your parents, i'm not here to see your parents, i'm here to see you (it happens that you live with them), i don't like to feel pressurized to greet someone when i estimate it's not the right time, when i'm not ready, or when i'm simply busy doing something else, it's my own choice to say hello, i don't like to feel commanded to do it (even implicitly), it's not a lack of respect, i evalutate the situation and decide if i feel to be polite right away, i have to feel it's the good time and that i want to do it so that when it happens and i present myself to someone i am entirely sincere, fluent, and joyful." So please stop imposing on me the fear of what your parents could think and want or what you could think and want, it's not of my concern i must respect myself first, i don't have bad intentions, i'm not a spiteful person, you know it (it's not like we just met), but i need to be the complete master of my actions and words.

And when you do that to your girlfriend when i come along and say hello to her through the webcam, i feel the weight you put on her and i pity her, because i don't care if she doesn't answer back to my waving hand, she's got her own choice to make, i won't despise her because she's not replying, if i decide to say hello, it's free, it's sincere, it's the gift of unconditional love that doesn't require anything back, people must be responsible only for themselves, and as long as we all see the world with respectful eyes no harm will be done.