Here's something i observed :
Mostly, obese and morbidly obese men are single (and desperate eh), while obese and morbidly obese women often have one or two kids and a husband generally slim and healthy.
Off of this we could think (and here we go back to all men and all women) :
One proeminent trait in most women is that they are superficial and will never date a fat man, and that most men are obssessed by sex (they have a high sex drive) and are ready to start a couple with anyone as long as they have the security of sex (so that they can satisfy that drive).
Well that's a negative way to put it, because i think that set up is perfectly natural and logical if we consider that the animal instinct in a woman pushes her to have an healthy and fit offspring, while the animal instinct in a man pushes him to spread his genes. So a man won't be stopped by the size and look of a woman to reproduce and a woman will seek the fittest and healthiest partner in the young and the pretty ones to have healthy and pretty babies.
*no offense intended
Morality : if you want a lasting relation with someone, never base it on physical intimacy, or be aware of that trend and use it punctually, because men are programmed to desire to spread their genes through many partners, and women are programmed to want to stick to the healthiest ones.
That's an interesting observation, I have seen this to be common where I live too. This is a touchy subject so I think what I say could offend someone, but whatever, I feel to comment. I've noticed that biracial couples (where the man is black and the woman is white), there are many average looking black men with obese white women. Maybe that's a preference, do more black men prefer more fleshy women while white men are more drawn to slender ones?
RépondreSupprimerI think it's easy to get fat in our culture, with so much unhealthy food available to us in big quantities. Personally I think when a person is obese it means he/she has given up on themselves, has low self esteem, and uses food for comfort.
Regarding your observation of biracial couples i can't really tell, i haven't noticed this here. Just a guess, maybe it's because black men are generally stronger so they need more flesh on their women (this is not a judgment but an innocent observation).
SupprimerThen on the subject of obesity i've often seen that obese people have two things in common (often but not always true, i stay careful, and again this is just an observation i have no resentment against anyone),
One : they have a poor diet made of crisps, pizzas, burgers, chinese take away, and fizzy drinks, with chocolate and pastries for dessert, every meal, every day.
And two : they often were bullied at school, so as you said it's comfort eating over a past trauma, which is sad.
That sort of food obese people eat works as drugs, it is manufactured to get people addicted and buy more, then it's a vicious circle because the more you eat the more you get fat, and exercising becomes more and more difficult so many people give up and find comfort in their food.
My sister was telling me today that some people made a goal to be the fattest they can and they convince themselves that they are getting more beautiful as they are getting fatter, it's a new emerging trend.
To me it's only a rationalization of the mind to justify their over self indulgence in highly addictive unhealthy food.
I don't write all that to moralize people, everyone must find one's own balance to be happy in one's life, all this is just plain observation and analysis of known facts.
It's true, junk food is desgined to get people hooked so they will continue buying more (sugar and fat is tasty, it's how people evolved to survive when we were cavemen and didn't know if we could have something to eat every day). It's amazing how there was a shift, where this junk food becomes more affordable and accessible so we see more obesity in minorities and people in poverty.
SupprimerThat's a strange trend you described, I guess people want to go against standards of beauty... though I don't see how being fat is beautiful or healthy.
Well, as we always say, to each there is a balance to be found and if that balance is skewed there are disturbances.
I wish you would back up any of the above with a proper medical study. Obesity in women can lead to infertility in similar rates as anorexia does. Furthermore it would be nice, if you would not post a mere opinion as truth, especially if it is something that can be invalidated scientifically. But people with half-knowledge or lack of education have the tendency to do so (well, not only my opinion, but statistically proven, too).
RépondreSupprimer"…and women are programmed…" I am sure the latest biological research was your source here...not. Programmed? What precisely is this supposed to mean? Is this an approach from genetics or behavioristics (in both cases – false, sry!) This is ridiculous and very misogynistic.
RépondreSupprimerHe clearly stated that this is his opinion based on his observations, if you are interested in scientific proofs you can research on your own and form your own and support your opinion. No need to use accusatory words, it's fine to have a difference of opinion but unkind of you to judge so harshly just because someone perceives this matter differently than you do.
SupprimerThis topic stirs a lot of controversy so I am not surprised someone out there got offended.
Yeah i clearly stated that this was only my opinion, my perception of the world, only based on my observations (not a scientific study, nor the truth for every mind), and that it wasn't intended to offense anyone. I'm sorry for "Anonyme" but i can't be clearer than that, please don't stress out and live your life as you want, but remember that if you want to be respected then you should also respect others.
RépondreSupprimer"Obesity in women can lead to infertility in similar rates as anorexia does." that is true, a medical fact. Of course everyone is entitled to an opinion. Even that the earth is a disk. But the earth is not a disk. And fat is not a sign of female fertitily.
SupprimerAre you softly insulting me? I feel like it.
SupprimerMy point in this, depending on simple street observation, is that fat women find more easily a partner than fat men, hence all the pondering searching for the why without refering to any studies but just a reflection on one moment with only my mind (i never thought about fat women fertility rate).
Do you feel offended by that?
Anyway have a good day.