For a part, in an interaction, people's behavior and judgment is conditionned by the image you present.
If you flinch, if you are unassuming, weak, if you don't trust yourself, people will tend to despise you, to manipulate you, to crush you, to discard, to disrespect, to abuse you, at best they will feel pity for you.
While if you show self confidence, if you display strength and faith in your opinions, your acts, and your appearance, if you are autonomous and adaptable, then people will probably respect you, they will help you and appreciate you.
That's a fact we are always more attracted by assertive and charismatic persons than by lurking and fearful ones.
And i think such mindsets also affect any situation in a life, even when other humans aren't involved, the world gives you back depending on the degree of conscious positivness with which you apprehend it.
hi, that's true, I complete agree. This concept reminds me of the saying, "You get the love you deserve." (meaning, if you don't like yourself others will treat you with disrespect because that's what you reflect. Negativity earns us abuse)
RépondreSupprimerI have a good example. These past few days my friend and I were staying in an expensive hotel. One of those days we went to have breakfast in the fancy "greenhouse" in the main lobby. I noticed all the other guests were dressed in fancy clothes, they looked rich and behaved like this is a routine part of their day. Meanwhile, I was smiling like a lunatic (I'm sorry I don't like using this word, but I like being dramatic because this is how I felt at the time) and taking photos of the silverware because this is not an experience I am accustomed to. The waiter put us on a table by the entrance, which was a table separated from all the rest and hidden behind a wall. I thought it was the reject table because we couldn't see the others, couldn't see the beautiful flower arrangement in the center, so I kindly asked to be moved to the main area. But my point it, I wonder if we were seated at the "reject table" because we didn't behave like all the other rich people were around us. We were not dressed like slobs, but we looked like we didn't belong because of our behavior.
It goes with something i read recently and with which i totally agree : "There is no happy victim.", it doesn't exist.
Supprimerwe have to assert ourselves positively.
I believe you're right, and that's a great move you did, you say it nicely, you express yourself, and you ask for what you want, this is your right.